We are delighted to welcome couples from our local community and from all over the country who wish to begin their married life in a ceremony at St. Mary’s Church. The day of your Wedding will be one of the most important days of your life. We will do all we can to ensure that it is a most happy occasion and that all the arrangements for the ceremony run smoothly.
We hope that the information given here will answer many of your questions, but please do contact us as soon as possible to arrange a booking.
After booking, St. Mary's will also provide you with a Wedding Pack which contains a host of additional information as well as hints and tips to help with organising your special day.
The Small Print...
When you pick up the phone and give us a call we will explore with you the best way of making sure you can get married here with us:
|Your Church Wedding|
In the past, couples were married by announcing their Banns (their intention to marry) in their locality.
So, if either of you are living within the area of St. Mary’s Church (or if you are non-resident, but are a regular worshipper with us and have your name recorded on the Church Electoral Roll) then you can marry using Banns.
Or, if either of you have a long-standing connection with our church, through Baptism, Confirmation or the residence and/or Marriage of a parent or grandparent, then you can marry using Banns.
Please do speak with the vicar.
If you are not living in the area it is still possible to be married at St. Mary’s Church.
You can, for instance, be married at St. Mary's after a residency period (a short stay) in the area. After arranging with the local Registrar in Kendal, and then staying for a short period, they will issue you a Superintentendent Registrar's Certificate (SRC) allowing you to marry in the area.
The vicar is more than happy to answer any questions about marrying through residency.
If either of you are divorced then we will want to explore how best to serve you.
So, if either of you are living in the area of St. Mary's it is sometimes possible to conduct a Marriage Service in Church. However, we will want to consider and reflect carefully with you whether it would be best and appropriate for you both. Therefore, please do be aware that such permission is not granted automatically.
As an alternative, a Service of Prayer and Dedication in the Church following a Civil Marriage may be arranged.
Please do speak with the vicar about any worries or concerns you may have about this.
Spreading the Word...
|We're Getting Married|
Your Banns, the public announcement of your intention to marry, are made in the Church of England Parishes in which each of you live on three Sundays in succession, not more than three months before the Wedding Day.
You will be notified of the dates on which your Banns will be read at St Mary's. If one of you is resident outside this Parish, you are responsible for contacting your Parish Church to arrange for Banns to be published there. You need to remember to obtain from there a Banns Certificate, which is necessary for the marriage ceremony to proceed.
If you choose to marry by Superintendent Registrar's Certificate or any other means, you will be responsible for liaising with the Registrar in Kendal and all other appropriate authorities.
Please do note that the Applethwaite Centre can help with either finding contact details of your local Parish Church, or with any issues arising from dealing with the Registrar or other authorities.
We strongly advise you not to make any arrangement or bookings, especially if they involve printers or caterers, before you have made quite sure that the service can take place on the day and time of your choice. Please contact us first.
Please note, the Applethwaite Centre based at St. Mary's may be able to help arrange printers and caterers. Please contact the Centre Manager.
Getting in Tune...
Most couples wish their ceremony to include music – organ music before and after the service, and two or three hymns.
At St Mary’s 'Anglican Hymns Old & New' which include a wide range of suitable and well-known hymns. Others may, of course, be considered. You can listen to a selection of hymns and music online at the Your Church Wedding website.
For your guidance, a list of hymns will be made available. If you wish for any special music to be played or sung, or have questions about music for your wedding service our Organist is happy to meet you.
Going to Print...
If you wish to order specially printed service sheets for the ceremony, please make sure that you check the hymns, the wording and layout with the vicar – before giving the printers definite instructions.
Please ensure you print enough copies for all the guests (including friends and neighbours who might come to the service even if they are not invited to the reception).
Again, the Applethwaite Centre may be able to help arrange printers and printing. Please contact the Centre Manager.
Please note that although we shall seek to adhere to your wishes, the final decision in respect of the contents of the service (music, hymns, readings, prayers etc.) lies with the Vicar.
There are generally flowers in Church throughout the year, except during Lent (the six weeks leading up to Easter) and Advent (the four weeks leading up to Christmas).
You are welcome to bring further displays into church. These must remain in church following the ceremony. Our church florist will be happy to talk with you about any special request you may have.
Again, the Applethwaite Centre may be able to help arrange florists and your displays. Please contact the Centre Manager.
A separate Table of Fees will be provided. A non-returnable deposit of £50 is payable at the time of booking. The remaining fees for your Wedding should be paid at the rehearsal prior to the ceremony.
Memories of the Day...
When you discuss your wishes with your Photographer please inform them that no photographs may be taken during the ceremony other than during the Signing of the Registers. Your Marriage Ceremony will be an act of worship and it is important that there should be nothing to distract any of those present from joining in reverently and fully.
In the event of wet weather on the day of the wedding, we shall be happy to allow photographs to be taken in Church after the service, when this is convenient. Video Recording of the Service may be permitted under certain circumstances. A charge is payable and an application form must be completed. Please contact us for details.
Again, the Applethwaite Centre may be able to help arrange a photographer and/or videographer. We have a list of experienced providers at a range of costs. Please contact the Centre Manager.
Family and Friends...
|Family and Friends|
To welcome your guests to church it can help to nominate two friends of the Bride and Groom to act as Ushers. Their task is to give out Hymn Books/Service Sheets and deal with any last minute concerns. Those whom you choose for this task should be at the Church at least half an hour before the service begins.
Please think carefully before asking young children under seven years of age to be bridesmaids or pageboys. They look wonderful but the experience often proves too much for those who are not adequately supported by having their parents and other caring adults on hand at all times. Their participation will be at the Vicar’s discretion.
More Information and Help
St. Mary's and the clergy in particular are always more than happy to answer any queries - there is no question too silly or too simple to ask!
The Church of England does however, offer a great deal of extra support for couples looking for a church wedding. The Weddings Project was established to make the task of getting organised and getting married much easier for couples. Some of the fruit of that project is a fact-filled website for couples at Your Church Wedding
This website answers many of the other questions not directly addressed here and provides a wealth of suggestions for the planning of your wedding - suggested readings, hymns and music that you can play samples of to determine which you prefer.